I Can’t Abide Standing Outside the Fire!

I’ve recently been thinking a lot about love and the instinctive quest we each share for meaningful companionship. There often exists a hesitancy to openly and honestly discuss this issue for fear of not playing it cool and appearing desperate or weak. I’ll continue however, not just because thats how I roll, but because I am confident that many think and feel as I do, and sometimes its nice to hear someone clearly express what’s in our heads.

I feel that generally, we all seek a companion who beautifully compliments our own heart, mind, and soul. A best friend whose presence turns bad moments into good ones, and makes good ones even better. Indeed, the two of you are “better together” (Jack Johnson).

I’ve had the blessing being in this type of a relationship…and as far as relationships go, it was the most amazing and wonderful thing ever! While its over now, I am so grateful to just know what that type of a relationship feels like, and how great it is.

I have the tendency to fall in love and give my hopes up very quickly. And no matter how many times I am let down or disappointed, or even hurt during my quest for companionship, I always seem to bounce back with just as much hope and enthusiasm to go another round…and it feels great. Getting hurt doesn’t feel great mind you, but rather knowing that I’m not the type of person who will just give up, get discouraged, or let harsh experiences negatively affect my attitude and approach in continuing the search. In fact, I remind myself that the challenges and obstacles I face the way to my final destination (eternal marriage) will only make getting there all the more wonderful and fulfilling. I also can look back and see that each experience has given me greater insight as to who I am, and what I’m looking for.

I’ll close with quotes from a couple of my favorite songs that I feel do a great job a summarizing my point:

Rascal Flatt’s Bless the Broken Road

“Every long lost dream lead me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you”

Garth Brooks’ Standing Outside the Fire (my theme song when it comes to love)

“There’s this love that is burning
Deep in my soul
Constantly yearning to get out of control
Wanting to fly higher and higher
I can’t abide
Standing outside the fire
…Life is not tried, it is merely survived
If you’re standing outside the fire”

5 Responses to I Can’t Abide Standing Outside the Fire!

  1. Amy & Sean says:

    Yeah, I was definately not as upbeat and positive about being in and out of relationships as you are (when I was single). Your “other half” is out there-maybe she’s just not ready for you yet. The Lord works on His time schedule, not ours. (Thank goodness)

  2. Ferris says:

    Garrett, you’re a capitalist troubadour of the highest caliber. It takes courage to love without fear of loss and disappointment. Your courage to love and live your life to the full will be one of your most enduring legacies.

  3. Nessa says:

    Garrett, you are awesome and so strong and happy all the time. You have so much energy and you definately don’t care what people think of you. I admire that, you are a wonderful person. I am one who is scared of commitment but I am working on that. I get in a relationship and it freaks me out. When I break up with guys I am deeply hurt afterwards but I get over it way fast. I say things happen for a reason and lessons will be learned and mistakes will happen but in the end you will find that special someone as long as you stay strong. I know I am weird but it is true you can’t be with someone if it doesn’t feel right. When the moment comes I will definately be happy but for now I can’t keep wishing for that special someone to come into my life and sweep me off my feet I need to date around and have fun and who knows maybe that person is right in front of me but you will never know. I always just go with the flow whatever happens, happens. Sorry so long I just wanted to share that with you. You are a truely amazing person I am glad I met you. Love Vanessa

  4. starbound87 says:

    Garrett, you’re awesome and any girl would be lucky to have you.Also, I agree with everything you said about relationships. They end and they hurt when they end but there are so many positive things that come from ended relationships that it’s hard not to have a positive outlook. For example, you can’t ever find the right person if you continue to stay with the wrong. Also, we learn, or can learn, so much from the relationships we have. We can learn about what we do and don’t want from a companion and we can learn more about ourselves and our personalities and what we could work on. In the Doctrine and Covenants it says, “All these things shall give thee experience and shall be for thy good.” I think that very same principle applies to love and relationships. Some of my greatest times of personal growth have come because of a relationship that I was working on and trying to fix, or one that just ended. Way to speak out and say what you want! Take care bud!-Mindy Ann

  5. jez_ika says:

    I admire how positive you are! Seriously when it comes to reltionships things can get tough because the heart is involved. But you have such a perfect attitude towards it which I need to work on! Haha.

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