I’ve recently been thinking a lot about love and the instinctive quest we each share for meaningful companionship. There often exists a hesitancy to openly and honestly discuss this issue for fear of not playing it cool and appearing desperate or weak. I’ll continue however, not just because thats how I roll, but because I am confident that many think and feel as I do, and sometimes its nice to hear someone clearly express what’s in our heads.
I Can’t Abide Standing Outside the Fire!
I feel that generally, we all seek a companion who beautifully compliments our own heart, mind, and soul. A best friend whose presence turns bad moments into good ones, and makes good ones even better. Indeed, the two of you are “better together” (Jack Johnson).
I’ve had the blessing being in this type of a relationship…and as far as relationships go, it was the most amazing and wonderful thing ever! While its over now, I am so grateful to just know what that type of a relationship feels like, and how great it is.
I have the tendency to fall in love and give my hopes up very quickly. And no matter how many times I am let down or disappointed, or even hurt during my quest for companionship, I always seem to bounce back with just as much hope and enthusiasm to go another round…and it feels great. Getting hurt doesn’t feel great mind you, but rather knowing that I’m not the type of person who will just give up, get discouraged, or let harsh experiences negatively affect my attitude and approach in continuing the search. In fact, I remind myself that the challenges and obstacles I face the way to my final destination (eternal marriage) will only make getting there all the more wonderful and fulfilling. I also can look back and see that each experience has given me greater insight as to who I am, and what I’m looking for.
I’ll close with quotes from a couple of my favorite songs that I feel do a great job a summarizing my point:
Rascal Flatt’s Bless the Broken Road
“Every long lost dream lead me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you”
Garth Brooks’ Standing Outside the Fire (my theme song when it comes to love)
“There’s this love that is burning
Deep in my soul
Constantly yearning to get out of control
Wanting to fly higher and higher
I can’t abide
Standing outside the fire
…Life is not tried, it is merely survived
If you’re standing outside the fire”